Today’s attraction tip:
Women WILL test you and whether you like it or not, or call it a game, or feel like you’re being manipulated…
Her “tests” are one of the very few definitive signs that she’s feeling a little attracted to you… and possibly more depending on HOW ( or IF ) you pass them.
Verbal Foreplay ( from a woman ) is sexually intense flirting with a purpose… to sexually test us guys.
Notice how it feels SHE wants it to go somewhere – but often it never does. Almost like she “trying” to get in your pants.
She’ll text you naughty things. Talk about a past sexual experience she enjoyed. She’ll even go so far as teasing you provocatively just to leave us there hard and sometimes unfortunately dumbfounded and horny.
This “verbal foreplay” is HER way of testing your strength. (Among other things.)
If you take the bait and try to run too far with it, could reveal to her your lack of experience or even a lack of sex in the days leading up to it. It can also get you to show just how into her you really are.
In another way it will definitely prove to her how much sex is really on your mind and whether you have… sexual restraint. (And I’m not talking about some kinky sex either.)
Verbal in this case is obvious…
It’s usually only words, texting, conversations, or topics about sex. Foreplay because it “feels” like a prelude to sex, designed to increase your desires and get you hot and ready.
But unlike real foreplay… it’s not meant to actually go anywhere.
Learning to pass her tests is about what to say, how to say it , when to say it, and how to make it sexy without failure. Test her before she tests you and… WATCH: Conversation Escalation – Make Small Talk Sexy
This remarkably intuitive and clever test works for many reasons because it easily separate guys into a few groups which is why women use it all the time:
- The guys who get it.
- The guys who don’t.
- The guys who want it.
- And the guys who “pretend” they get it.
It also works well for them because:
Women DO think about sex! They think about it often and they think about it in great detail and more intimately than guys.
By using this test they get to talk about it AND get you to reveal some things about yourself she can not just possibly ask.
If you didn’t know this, women don’t always have to act on their sexual desires which makes it seem like she has all the power to just walk away… which is not true. (In fact, if she’s not ready, she’ll take care of herself later on thinking about YOU.)
So don’t let women fool you, sex is on their mind a lot. Combine that with the test of “verbal foreplay” and I can practically guarantee it means one thing – she’s feeling attracted to you.
Women do NOT test men they’re not interested in or feeling attracted towards. It’s the one sure SIGN she IS FEELING IT!
Here is some great advice in dealing with these situations (or tests) and since I have been on both sides I’ve learned how to fail them to help you avoid the mistakes, and how to pass them too.
If you’re too nervous or afraid to talk about sex with a woman you have not slept with because you lack the experience… she’s probably going to know it quickly after the test. (Although it’s slightly okay to be nervous talking to a woman and some women actually like it, it’s NOT okay to just suddenly get nervous when she beings up sex.)
If you always let it go too far and assume she wants you because of it ( like the game’s over ) this “acting differently” or thinking you’ve won… reveals your hand all too early. Way too many guys get too excited when a woman (they want) brings up sex and then they take it way too far. This creeps her out, pushes her away, and only proves your lack of experience, not counting when you do it, you just failed this very important test.
It goes like this:
She brings up sex. You get excited. She pulls back and then you’re hooked… You’re sexually committed to a woman who just wanted to make sure of a few things about you.
You fail the test because you begin to escalate too quickly, thinking you’ve won, trying to make her feel too comfortable and it literally sucks the attractive chemistry out of the connection.
But luckily THAT doesn’t need to happen to a nice guy like you… You CAN pass this test. Especially when you recognize or assume it’s happening.
The hard part is not being afraid or trying not to act nervous when she brings up sex first and not having any reservations talking about it. Doing that could take some inner work.
The easier thing to do of course is…
Tease her back while remaining in the present and while remaining IN CONTROL.
When she begins to lead with this verbal foreplay… give her a little slack… but don’t give up the lead entirely.
Eventually she’ll pull back and when she does, pull back further.
“Women have men coming on to them all the time. If you “act” like those other guys you’ll be just like every other guy who she sees as only wanting to get in her pants.” Never Let Her Looks Or Beauty Alone Affect Your Actions
Most guys go in “chase mode” here and fail the test.
Be the “other” guy and go so far as accusing HER ( humorously ) that SHE must not be getting much lately.
Remain “in charge” of creating and building sexual chemistry because that’s normally what women want from you.
If her test takes you out of “being that guy” then you fail.
Women want guys who DO know how to take charge but they also want to know a few other things:
- She can turn you on.
- She is sexually attractive to YOU.
- You have or even fake your experiences better than others.
- You have restraint.
- You are IN control of your emotions.
Never forget, her “Verbal Foreplay”, when used early on, is not only a sexual test it’s meant to be fun.
A prelude to something else… later of course.
A test of YOUR character to assure her you really are who you appear to be on the surface.
And as mentioned above…
Women WANT to be sexually attractive to the guy who passes the “verbal foreplay” test. They want to be assured that she turns YOU on. Women love to be seen as sexy and beautiful to the guy she’s feeling extreme emotions for.
They’re giving you it because, as we finish this out:
- It’s designed to show her who you are for real in a way which is harder to fake.
- To gather your experience, restraint, ability to tease, flirt, have fun, without it always ending up in sex.
- Because SHE’S FEELING ATTRACTED TO YOU!
Women give quick (what I call bullshit) tests to scare away men quickly. A time saver sort-of thing when they’re being hit on constantly but this is not normally one of them.
This test happens when she’s already interacting with you and is engaged in a conversation with you.
Therefore it means it is a SURE SIGN SHE’S FEELING ATTRACTION.