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Women Loved Back Turned Say Goodbye

Years ago, back when Dinosaurs ruled the earth, okay let’s not go back that far, how about just before I truly understood one of the most generalized and talked about “subjects” in the world…

Women!

I loved every part of them.

Their hair.

Their cute smiles.

Their endearing laughs.

The way their hips swayed when they walked.

A simple elegant touch from them.

Every last mesmerizing curve on their body.

The intoxicating, invigorating, and energizing feeling I would get when I saw them.

The only part of the female charm I did not like – was “her” complete and utter mystery which represented to me a goal I thought I could never achieve.

Always so close by but never intimate in a way I really wanted.

For so long all I wanted was companionship…

To wake up next to my “beauty” and share my life with her.

Even as far as showing our love off just to make other couples jealous, somewhat envious on the great thing we found in each other.

I wanted my dreams to become reality but living out a  “real true love” in every sense of the word only made me feel even more lonely.

It never seemed fair – How could such a strong desire to share love feel so freaking bad – while so many others seemed to have and get it without even trying.

How could wanting something so natural make my heart feel so worthless and forever-broken?

How could loving women so much turn me into a such a pathetic and hopeless romantic.

Always emasculated, frustrated and willing to do anything for any pretty woman who would love me back half as much than I ever experienced before.

Thinking back, those years I spent alone taught me something about myself.

It allowed me the time to become completely comfortable about myself and the situation I felt destined to be in… single for life.

Except the comfortableness eventually turned into complacency.

I felt destined to be alone.

Destined to sit on the side lines to only watch the game.

I was settling in for a lifetime of either failure if I tried, or learn how to re-focus my efforts and give 100% to every talent I owned. Which I did.

But no matter how hard I tried to “forget” about all the women who never loved me back by “keeping myself busy” the feelings never went away.

I was just hiding and pushing it all away.

For every women I met the pattern was always the same.

What I did. How I acted. How I’d put myself close and become her friend. How every moment I wished she’d make a move so I wouldn’t have to because I was too scared.

None of which obviously worked.

But it was okay.

I had my life going on and would stumble on without them anyways. Apathy became the closest friend I had ever known.

My gratitude to the women I so casually rattled off, all true in name and still hold a clear smiling picture in my mind, is not meant to be sarcastic.

The goal was not to show bitterness and despair.

The gratitude is real because EVERY woman who rejected me, actually inspired me.

The guy who loved women too much, who would do anything for them, who only wanted to be loved, endeared, chased, and who so easily cherished every piece that even her faults were always “kind-of cute” was INSPIRED by all the rejection and pain.

AND I think you can too because…

If you have way too many unforgettable loves but had to settle for none, you CAN use them as a solid building block to unlimited strength and attractiveness.

You’ve suffered the rejections.

You’ve learned to deal with it all as best as you can.

You’ve managed to move past them one-by-one and still found a way to keep your head up.

If you find yourself having to constantly re-focus to numb the pain of your past, then you have the ability to focus that very same energy like you have never before…

And to use it to discover ABSOLUTE SUCCESS with lots of awaiting women.

Look at every past woman who resides in your head, see their most adorable pose as clear as you can and…

Thank them.

If they make you smile, if you still love them, if you still feel empowered by a “new” woman who catches your eye despite your past, if you can not escape being overly emotional because you just can not help but feel something for ALL women…

Thank them now before apathy sets in and you settle for something I’ll call “complacently single.”

Just before I hit my bottom, which by the way what I thought was the bottom was really just another trap-door into feeling nothing, I got so sick and tired of believing I had to settle, I focused every bit of that energy to learn and understand women better than ever before.

They have done you a favor.

They have helped you become STRONG.

They have helped you become RESILIENT.

They have shown you that your life doesn’t have to revolve around women.

They have given you the time to find YOURSELF which is a huge step in the direction of becoming an extremely attractive man with lots of choice.

No matter where you are today – no matter how bad, lonely, and sad you might be feeling over this whole “woman” thing…

This is NOT rock bottom.

Yo’re just in a different place and that doesn’t have to be a bad place.

All those women you’ve loved before who never loved you back has shown that you’re more than capable of love, giving it and receiving it is an important piece of getting and being in a great relationship.

So USE it all to your advantage like I did years ago.

Starting today. No excuses. No more looking back.

Thank them all and say goodbye – you’ve got places to go and women to meet AND attract.

Write down the first names of EVERY woman or girl you thought you loved but never liked, loved, or wanted you in the same way.

Write down EVERYTHING you enjoyed and loved about them. Every last detail no matter how small, big, weird, strange, or personal.

Get them all out of your system.

Say, “Thanks for everything. Great to have met you but I must be going. Probably won’t catch you later but it’s been FUN.”

Sign up below – read the free ebook I wrote for you. Start saying “HELLO” to a new better, attractive place with all the women you’re going to meet while moving FORWARD in your new life.

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Guy Calling Woman Yelling Names

Here’s what THIS nice guy did… I treated women “all nice” on the outside but would go home every night bitching about them, calling them every name in the book. These four words were the worst:

Superficial – Apparently I don’t have enough shiny things to give them. My car is cool enough. I don’t have any tattoos. I’m too short and I have a huge space between my two front teeth.

Stupid – Always falling for the players. How can she not see past his bullshit? How can she not tell she’s being used? Come on, she actually believes the lame ass stuff coming out of his mouth?

Masochist – She definitely LOVES being treated like shit. The more drama the better. The more he cheats on her, the more she loves him. The worse she feels with him, the “happier” he makes her.

Blind – Hello,I’m the nice “good” guy you CLAIM you’re looking for but for some reason, look right past me every time. How can you NOT see me? You talk to me all the time. You tell me everything. We connect in so many ways BUT nope, not GOOD enough for you.

You MUST be fucking BLIND, or maybe stupid, definitely a masochist, and without a doubt just another superficial BITCH.

It was always HER and never me.

Desperate and alone – I tried another tactic. Seclude myself from women entirely. Using my failing limited belief system as some warm security blanket protecting me from the pain they inflicted on me.

I declared as if I believed it:

“Fuck it. Who needs women anyways. I’ve gone long enough without them. I feel better and stronger not being in a relationship. I’m happier and more free than those pathetic jerks in  anyways. They’re all miserable pricks who don’t appreciate what they have. If I was meant to be alone – so be it! More life for ME!”

The self-declaration of “Guess this is me now.” didn’t work for long. I just couldn’t keep myself away from women no matter how hard I tried. My nice self would just never shut up.

So I tried something different – be a jerk. Yes, I attempted to stop being so freaking nice. Of  course since I didn’t know HOW to do that, all that got me was an angry even more depressed world to wake up to everyday AND definitely no closer to getting laid or finding the perfect girlfriend for me.

The years quickly passed and while being younger, others looked past me being single all the time. Maybe some just figured I was gay. Maybe others guessed I was hiding my sexual affairs because of the embarrassment I felt sleeping with THAT or IT.

Things began to change though and the questions started coming,

How come you’re STILL single? Why don’t you have a girlfriend? You need to find a nice girl and settle down already.

Not that they ever helped. No one tried to hook me up with anyone. No one introduced me to a nice girl. Not one of those “people” who were so-called friends or family did ONE thing to get me laid, hook me up, or set me up with anyone – ALL non-advice and action-less.

I needed an excuse and found one quite easily.

I’m not settling for just any old woman. I have high standards and I’m sticking to them. I had haven’t met the ONE, that’s all.

OF course in reality – that was the truth so I had a real excuse and didn’t even have to lie.

BUT it also made things much worse because with each failed non-sexual experience with a woman who did meet my standards became yet another large drop quickly filling a huge pool of despair, loneliness, and misery.

The wind would blow the pool once in while as I thought I was finally going to get lucky but that was quickly replaced by the dead silence of night as the water went still once again.

I went NUMB.

Felt little to nothing of everything.

Eventually – I even forgot to have fun.

It’s all a little too typical, isn’t it?

I wasn’t special. I wasn’t the only guy going through it. I wasn’t really ALONE. My feelings were felt and shared by lots of guys suffering through the same fate day in and day out.

We ALL go through the same emotions, blame game, and loneliness explained away by something we feel wasn’t our choice…

We’re born nice and there’s nothing we can do about it.

Worse yet – it feels RIGHT.

Be nice to women and they SHOULD like us back.

But when it doesn’t and all the negative feelings run around in our minds – we feel worse, why? Because we’re SUPPOSED to be nice.

We hide those emotions and bury them deep inside us making for yet another problem to deal with alongside the loneliness (as if we don’t have enough), the GUILT and SHAME slowly building up inside us with no end in sight.

Makes us question just how nice we really are for having those thoughts, doesn’t it?

Eventually we lose the one thing that made us feel special…

We lose faith in our SELF.

We don’t feel SPECIAL anymore AND we don’t feel “worthy” of any woman.

Some of us DO find a way to settle as we rely on luck and HER to make all the moves. We can find some love for her but it feels hollow and unsupported.

It feels so wrong we begin to hate ourselves even more.

Who are we to tell a woman we love her when some dude inside us is constantly reminding us that we SETTLED. We didn’t get HER, she got US.

Strange how something which “should” make us FEEL like a man (a woman wanting us) can make us feel worse and far from being a real capable and attractive guy.

I have some good news for you…

Those four terrible words listed above are FEELINGS and there’s nothing wrong with having them. 

Sure – they’re not nice. No one wants to be called them.

No woman deserves to be labeled or belittled in that way just the same as you wouldn’t like someone talking shit about you negatively.

BUT – they are just feelings to describe how women make YOU feel.

Superficial.

You don’t feel good enough for them. As if you have nothing to offer them that they would want.

You’re looking on the surface and the REAL answer will never be found there.

Stupid.

You don’t feel like you truly understand women. They make you feel dumb because no matter how hard you try – you can never figure out what they really want.

You’re trying to solve the problem in the wrong way. Normal problem solving that gets you by in life just won’t work when it comes to attracting a woman you actually want.

Masochist.

You’re hurting yourself and you’ve grown accustomed to it. You’re feeling something and that’s better than feeling NOTHING at all.

Your brain is a highly advanced computer than can NEVER be proven wrong. It will do everything in its power to prove it’s right even if it means stopping you from getting what you want to assure how you feel about yourself – not good enough for women.

Blind.

It’s like someone or something is hiding reality from you. You feel like your eyes are closed. Like you’ve been locked in a dark room and NOBODY is going to help you turn on the lights.

Your view of the world has been slowly built from your past experiences. Nothing is hidden from you. You just need to start seeing things from a different perspective.

It was always HER and never you.

One of the hardest things to admit or succumb to is the feeling of constantly being wrong.

You DO feel it’s always YOU and never her.

The choice is not really a choice here, is it? If you admit to always being wrong you’ll never win or succeed, leaving you with little room to do anything else but to blame something outside yourself that you have no control over at all.

You KNOW it’s not true but the choosing to believe the other – only makes you feel worse.

I am NOT giving any guy an excuse or the freedom to call women names or to classify all females into a negative category.

So don’t do it!

I’m simply trying to help you get through all your feelings and by doing so will leave you more free to get past them in a healthy way.

Remember – I’ve been through all this. Those were my words to describe women and not yours. They may be similar to your thoughts but I’m the one who wrote them down.

What I’ve discovered is that nice guys face huge dilemmas in their head. They’re generally good people yet their experiences in the world (especially with women) leaves them with a lot of negative feelings which they bury down and refuse to let out.

The contradiction causes their minds to block out so much stuff and stops them from getting in touch with their real feelings – and if they’re not aware or willing to admit them – makes it very difficult to communicate to others (again especially the opposite sex) in an attractive way.

Seems odd for me to tell ANY man that he needs to get in touch with their feelings but it’s the absolute truth.

I teach women the same thing. For a woman to connect with ANY man on an emotional level she needs to first understand her own feelings.

That same goes for nice guys alike.

If you want connect and ATTRACT women – you must first connect with yourself and getting down deep inside yourself to find out what really hiding beneath this nice guy persona is a great place to start.

I am NOT opening up the comment section below for anyone to start bitching about women UNLESS it can be explained with an emotion or feeling which will lead to something more positive, enlightening, and beneficial.

BUT I’d love to hear about what going on inside your head after reading all this.

AND if you want to still be a decent guy and learn how to attractively communicate to women then make sure you read my free book below.

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Woman Talking Party Says You're Married

She said, “Oh sure, you don’t have to worry about it… you’re married!”

To which I responded with a good laugh in my typical evil tone of course,

“Haha!! Why would you think I’m married? I never told you that and obviously I don’t wear a ring.”

She came back with,

“I don’t know.”

As she nervously laughed out the rest,

“…Because you’re nice. I figured you were married. You don’t act like those other guys so I just assumed you were…”

My interruption cut her off,

“No I get it.”

I gave her a coy smile and,

“Good looking guy like myself. I know what you’re saying… someone must’ve of snatched me up by now.”

Now I’ve been called many things in my life and nice was ALWAYS the worst. We all know it’s normally a death sentence of rejection from a woman who wants nothing to do with you sexually.

Except in this case…

It never crossed my mind much that a woman could tell me I’m “nice” in a positive way while at the same time starting to feel attracted to me.

She, for whatever her reasons were – disqualified herself to me before I even knew it.

Lots of women do it.

They assume some not-so random guy would never want them anyways and come up with lots of reasons why it wouldn’t work out. As if they’re predicting a guy is already out of their league.

Sound familiar?

It should because if you’re a nice guy and struggle in the woman department or never feel like you can have what you really want, you do it too.

You see a hot woman and you think,

“She wouldn’t want me anyways because…”

Go ahead and fill in the blank to match how you feel today. Mine USED to be: too short, too ugly, too poor, too old – and that’s in order of significant importance.

Notice how “too nice” isn’t there because I did.

It never occurred to me that a guy could be “too nice” until I learned what that really meant and why it was stopping me from getting laid or finding a decent “attractive” girlfriend.

Anyways…

So here’s this slightly messed up young cutey (who is perhaps a little too empathetic) disqualifying me so causally in what appeared to be an innocent statement about me being married.

And what did I do…? I turned it back on her as if it was HER secret excuse which I’m sure is, in a way, because I’m more than positive that is her thing and her issues.

BUT in reality the bigger issue or something you can take away today is:

HOW a woman perceives you and the image she puts in her head the few seconds or moments she thinks about you; whether it’s from a fleeting thought about attraction or even a disgusted way of, “I’d never!” – forever banishing you to the friends zone before you even speak…

Suddenly,

“…Too nice you must be married” might also mean I looked rather settled in my ways.

Older, less determined to just get laid, somewhat happy in my own world.

Cooler, calmer, in control like I’m getting some anyways and don’t need to be trolling for numbers from every young hottie I meet.

ALL true of course.

Just never occurred to me how many unsuspected single women might see me that way too and what it meant to my past dating life.

You see, to REALLY turns things around (with attracting women) I believe you must take that image, the very first moment a woman thinks and feels a little something good inside about you and (sort of) run with it.

You’re only wasting your time and turning off her attraction by insistently trying to change that image to better yourself in her eyes. It’s a classic and huge mistakes nice guys always make.

Here’s what I mean:

If she says you’re too nice – you try to disprove it to her.

If she’s says you’re too old – you try to show her you have a young heart.

If she rejects you because you waited 15 months to do anything with her and instead you not-so-secretly revealed your feelings for her – then you try even harder thinking your romantic side will win her over.

And none of that really works to “change” her mind or hasn’t for you, has it?

She might think you’re older (maybe even too old) but you know what – old can easily become MATURE – RESPONSIBLE – EXPERIENCED – DONE WITH PLAYING GAMES.

She might think you’re “too nice” but not only does being nice in these circumstances grant you rights those “other” guys don’t get because she doesn’t trust their intentions – it also means even if you do just one slightly bad crazy thing (easy there do go too far with it) it will have a much bigger impact on her. Kind of like when the bad boy does something nice for her it means that much more.

Seriously…

Why mess with a good thing? Why waste your time trying to prove you’re something you think you’re not to her?

She might instantly see you or assume you’re taken or married and to me that screams “pre-selection”. Some OTHER woman might’ve snatched you up which implies you’re a catch and you’re off-limits too.

That’s the making of some serious attraction…

OTHER women want you AND she can not have you!

Let her believe for it a while and as long you’re being funny about it all, it’s okay.

Think about it:

Who wants something which is given to them all too easily anyways?

She might (at first glance or conversation) believe you’re cool, calm, in control and “getting some” which is the reason you’re not wrapped up in trolling for numbers and pussy.

Why would you want to change her mind about any of those things…  What women doesn’t want a cool guy who is in relative control over themselves and their lives.

So here’s what I do…

Go with it. You can’t change a first impression anyways BUT you certainly can take what she sees, find the attractive positive angle, and simply build it up even more.

As long as it’s done in a confident, humble, slightly humorous, slightly dead pan way – it WILL work. Trust me on that because I’ve done it many times.

The opposite is far worse.

When you think her first impression about you sucks and it’s not going to get you anywhere with her, TRYING to change her mind is only giving her every excuse or reason to reject you. You’ll disqualify yourself before she even has the time to do it.

How many times you, as a nice guy, have caught yourself doing exactly this?

It felt like she was pre-rejecting you so your next move was to try and change her mind. Whether it was a few days, weeks, or months later before you realized you were wasting your time and how she’s never going to be with you anyways – changing her mind was not ever going to happen and the harder you try – the further you push her away.

It’s not that she saw a “sad lonely guy who couldn’t get laid” which does you in – it’s the trying to prove to her you’re better than that or MORE than what she sees which inevitably squeezes you out.

Even if she sees you as a “sad lonely guy who couldn’t get laid to save his life” the LAST thing you want to do is disprove that to her because at that point you’re already done.

Now I’m not saying if that’s the case for you to run with it too much. After all, it’s more effective to better yourself first and get your interactions with yourself and women and some better control.

BUT if that is the case – going with it a little – even from than angle – IS possible.

Sad can mean the broken bad boy.

Lonely can mean unloved because all the rest left you because you  “always” find a way to fuck it all up.

Couldn’t get laid to save your life CAN equal something more IF you’re smart about being persistent… attractively.

Most REAL women couldn’t care less that you can not get laid to save your life.

AND most REAL women would absolutely fall for a guy who doesn’t let that failure ruin or dictate their life by becoming a miserable prick who only blames others for their shortcomings or past rejections.

Here’s the deal:

Some women DO disqualify themselves to men very early the exact same way a nice guy does.

Sometimes it’s a test, sometimes it is not.

Nice or not – you’re certainly not the only one doing it.

Her early disqualification or “pre-rejection” can be handled two ways – positively or negatively.

Trying to change her mind or prove yourself to her AND taking it personal has a negative affect on her attraction. In other words – test FAILED.

FROM NOW ON…

Assume when a woman disqualifies herself to you early on it’s either a test, a small “shell” game, OR a sign of ATTRACTION or BOTH.

She wouldn’t reject HERSELF to a guy she wasn’t interested in – she would flat-out reject you which means she’s feeling something. Her little emotional nudge in your direction gives you plenty to work with to make it grow as big as you want.

Her reasons or excuses or the way you believe she sees or perceives you (judgement or observation) CAN be used positively.

Go with it, avoid denying it, don’t try to prove her wrong, and LET her believe whatever she wants to think about you.

Go with it and have some playful innocent fun with it. ENJOY IT!

Here’s how the conversation I had with the woman above moved on:

She wasn’t sure and she was getting supposedly annoyed because I wouldn’t give her a straight answer,

“Well… Hahaha! Are you married or not?!!!”

I answered with a classic smirk on my face and raised one eye brow,

“I don’ think I am.” 

She laughed and smacked me on the arm.

“Actually. Yes I am married. I don’t wear my ring because…” 

To which she rudely she interrupted,

“Do you have any kids?”

I answered with,

“Not that I know of…”

The rest is not as important and very private information you can not have BUT I will now say this:

It may be obvious to another woman what was happening and why she said those things to me (as in assuming I was married)  but a REAL “typical” nice guy wouldn’t get it.

You go right for the “she thinks I’m nice and married” therefore she’s pre-rejecting me.

When in reality it was a TEST. She was actually HITTING on me.

She needed to know quickly if I was single or not so I went with it in a direction she doesn’t normally get from guys.

She was also trying to figure out what type of guy I was… Would I become offended by her strange accusation of calling me nice? Would I prove to her I wasn’t worth her time by acting all nice thinking THAT was the way to get in her pants? (As she made it clear she was into guys being nice.)

OR would I attempt to prove to her I wasn’t the guy she assumed I was therefore failing this early test?

None of which was done therefore test passed – attraction triggered – fun night ahead with a conversation that she wasn’t used to having with lots of guys who just don’t get it.

You might have read stuff like this before as it’s become well-known as cocky/comedy.

I’m just hoping you’ve never heard it like this and how as a nice guy – using it and why is so important.

You see – even if she sees (or claims) you’re a nice guy who couldn’t get laid to save his life – doesn’t really mean much to her and it shouldn’t to you either.

Now that you know WHAT to do in situations like this – use it!

BUT be warned – USE IT SPARINGLY.

AND do it RIGHT.

OR it will never work for you.

I’m not getting into the whole HOW to do the cocky/comedy thing today. That’s for you to do on your own today OR subscribe below as it’s certainly covered in my Ebook starting on page 80.

However – the rest – NEVER forget it.

Whatever you think she sees in you – whatever she says about it, don’t fight it. Don’t try to disprove her. Don’t try to prove yourself because you think she’ll like you more for it. She’ll actually like you less for it.

You do have some sort of control over her first impression of you and it’s okay to make a good one on the side.

Just don’t get caught up in the game because you’ll only lose way more often than not.

Turn it around.

You’re not a “sad lonely nice guy who couldn’t get laid to save his life” …

You’re a misunderstood all too passionate dude who doesn’t try to screw every woman he sees and you’re just not into playing some silly stupid games.

You’re life doesn’t need saving. It doesn’t revolve around getting your dick wet.

IF she wants a guy like that – there are plenty to go around and she KNOWS IT!

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