One piece of advice typically given to men and women which applies to dating (and life) is probably an old cliché:
Put yourself in more positions where something can and will, naturally happen.
It might be another way of saying “put yourself out there” and so most nice guys ignore it or downplay what it means.
Yet we can not ignore the fact that if you’re not out there looking or meeting women, the odds of dating someone becomes close to nothing. (Sure you can do the online thing but for best results, relying just on the internet doesn’t help with the real social aspect of dating.)
I hear this all the time and even said it myself way too many times,
“I’ve tried it. Didn’t work. Why put myself out there when being myself didn’t or is not working? It’s a waste of my time.”
“Dating can be about exploring options as much as it can be about learning compatibility.” Why You Should Date Many Women Before You Commit To Just One
Yes it’s true. If what you’re doing is not working and haven’t tried something different, than of course you can expect more of the same results.
But by now, you should be interacting with women in a different way and it’s the perfect time to put it all out there and gain the most valuable experience of your life.
There are a few ways to put yourself out there (to get more dates) and put your new skills into practice:
- Building a larger more rewarding social life.
- Approaching women and starting conversations. Getting numbers, emails, social media accounts, and any way to reconnect with them.
- The art of dating and knowing what to do, where to go, and how to do it better than ever before.
Since this is an extremely large subject I’ll have to link out to articles already written by me or ones I have found to be the most useful.
1. Building a social life which allows you to meet more women naturally where dating is not implied.
- Building A Successful & Attractive Social Life, Step 1- What’s Wrong?
- Building A Social Life, Step 2 – Are You Meeting Single Women?
- Creating New Experiences In Your Life – Build A Social Life – Step 3
- Help Your Social Life & Communication Skills – Outside Resources Only
Next read this: The Benefits And Rules Of Becoming Friends With Hotter Women
It will help you to get more “hotter” women, or ones you’ll want to date in your life AND will have the added benefit of getting you used to being around beautiful women. (Something which usually intimidates nice guys.)
Building a real social life is very important so please do NOT skip trying it or giving it some effort.
If your life is already there, cool but if it’s not getting you dates or allow you to meet more women naturally, then it has to change. You need to avoid doing the same old thing to get different results.
2. Approaching women, getting numbers and dates.
Rather than give you tons of links just go to DaiLteG tm and hit this page: What to Say When Approaching Women
Okay a few more have popped up at The Approach.
You’ll find them in this category: Meeting And Approaching Women.
3. The art of dating. Where and how.
That one has some great ideas on where to date so make sure you read the entire thing where you’ll find some great places to go.
It also includes these two articles:
- 32 Great Date Places – Where To Go and Meet Up With Her
- The Cheapest Places To Meet Women Even If You’re Under 21.
This is a great one too:
There is a ton of information to follow in those links.
Take it easy and explore your best options.
Don’t forget the series I first used appropriately called Double Your Dating. It’s not too expensive and covers (in great detail) everything from attraction to approaching to meeting & dating too. With the appropriate name, “double your dating” , dating lots of women will not ever be a problem for you again.
What I’ve learned over the years is that attractive available women are EVERYWHERE.
When you’re ready to meet them, when you know exactly what to do in those situations, and when you truly connect with them – good things will happen.
Start building and setting up your life in a way where it all naturally happens.
You’ll not only avoid having to use pick up lines or catch phrases or not being your “good” self, you’ll gain experience, confidence, understanding, and you’ll be given more opportunities to practice your new skills of attracting women.
Are you completely ready to start dating lots of women?