Today’s (rather long article) is about:
- Risk and how do doing nothing leads to nothing but failure which is something far worse than rejection.
- Confidence! What attracts girls to confidence and why.
- Being or becoming her mister right can be as simple as being confident and taking risks.
- What advice is given to women when a guy is not taking action or are not progressing forward with her.
- How girls over think and how this can be an advantage to you if you handle it the right way OR how it can easily mean you will never get with her.
- How you can increase your confidence in a few easy steps!
One thing you’ll notice about girls is that they are constantly trying to read between YOUR lines. They’re looking for more signals from you than you could ever imagine. Seriously, if us guys starting to think like that our brains would explode.
This is a REAL comment asking me for advice about a guy she’s been thinking about and although it’s not guaranteed every girl thinks this way – it is very common so pay attention to how detailed and how much thought she put into this one guy:
“I’ve been liking this guy for over a year now, and I think he has too. But, maybe he is just being nice?? We both work at the same company, but totally separate departments. We see each other 3-5 times a week for 1-2 minutes. But those couple of minutes are so intense for me and maybe for him too?
Here are the reason I believe he likes me:
1. Always staring at me
2. Smiles every time we see each other
3. Deep eye contact
4. Laughs at any joke I make
5. Has blushed
6. Did an extra errand that was out of him way to help me one time.
7. Ask me questions that I wouldn’t know the answer to. Maybe that was just to talk to me, or because it was a legitimate question??
Reasons I doubt he likes me:
1. Never tries to touch me (although my desk blocks him)
2. He’s never made a move
3. I usually strike up quick convo
4. He sometimes doesn’t talk to me at all, although it’s rare
I’ve been taking dozens of quizzes online and I feel so frustrated. I’m just scared I have over thought all his signs and he doesn’t like me….any advice would be great. Thank you!!!! — Amber.”
This is my response and notice what she is told to do in situations with guys who lack confidence or “know how” and what it means to you, as a guy, trying to date a nice girl.
(By the way – did you notice how much she has been thinking. I mean she wrote down all the signs in a sort-of pro’s and con’s list.)
I don’t think you have over-thought the signs, but you are definitely over-playing the situation.
Why would you go online taking quizzes and get so frustrated over someone you interact with maybe 3 to 10 minutes a week for a year now without doing “something” more about it?
On the other hand, besides the fact he’s not going to jump over the desk to touch you…
He’s done absolutely nothing to progress this little “affair” which tells me, it’s not a lack of interest, but either a lack of “know how”, courage, or both.
You have to assume most guys just don’t get the hints OR you’re not giving him something less subtle to go by.
Something which is an obvious sign that you are willing to go out with him or at least hand over your number to “see what happens.”
But you know what Amber, that’s ALL you can do.
Allowing yourself to continue this way is doing nothing for either one of you AND you’re missing the opportunity to see if you’re even compatible.
If you believe he likes you then you too must take the risk and seek something more out of it or else you’ll be forever waiting for HIM to take the risk and I have to tell you, a year is long time to just be sitting around waiting to make his move.
If he hasn’t by now, chances are he can’t, won’t, or doesn’t feel like you’re going to respond favorably to him. ( Which is HIS confidence problem and not yours. )
That’s how all this typically works.
It feels like a guy’s into you then you must be willing to risk rejection just as much as he is and no quiz will help you do that. They will only confuse you. The answer is right in front of you.
You can either wait around for him OR you can DO something about it and honestly, IF he still isn’t getting the hints, well then either send him here 🙂 or assume it’s not because he isn’t interested, it’s because he again…
Doesn’t know how, hasn’t found the right words, or isn’t willing to risk his own rejection by YOU.
I believe you’re looking for me to give you something tangible you can do to reveal his hand. Like there’s some signal you can read to tell you exactly what’s on his mind but it just doesn’t work that way.
What works is courage, a firm belief in yourself, and a willingness to be rejected while not taking it personal.
Sure there are some things you can do to help him along but I can almost guarantee you’ll quickly tire of having to do all the work and it won’t do much for his attraction for you.
Listen, I got remarkably better at all this shit when I first stopped looking for signals and started taking action.
I just firmly believe you’ll be better off seeking out men who know how to make things happen and you’ll save yourself lots of time and frustration waiting around for just one guy to learn how it’s supposed to work.
Best of luck to you Amber… Pete. (END OF COMMENT REPLY)
The last statement is what we teach women… that they’ll be better off seeking men who know how to make things happen. Who are willing to risk rejection. Who have the confidence and know how it ( and women ) work.
Sure she’s feeling attracted to him despite it all BUT since nothing is actually happening… what good is it?
It’s not going anywhere because honestly: (and this is the part you must always remember):
Most women will think themselves well out of the situation. They would rather take quizzes online, ask me about you, do nothing until it all fades away OR wait until another guy to come along who just maybe she’s not attracted to at first but does something MORE! That’s the dude she’s going to feel helplessly attracted to and possibly fall in love with…
And YOU CAN BE THAT GUY!
My mentor just sent me something I’d like you to read. This is what separates the guy who missed a year of opportunity with Amber from a guy who is not just some fly by night dude but possibly her “Mr. Right.”
The First Thing Women Look For In “Mr. Right”
Confidence is the key ingredient of what we commonly think of as “chemistry”… the immediate, unspoken promise that a man is likely to be:
PROTECTIVE AND IN-CONTROL. The kind of man who’s emotionally prepared and knows exactly what to say and do in a given situation.
EXCITING (IN THE RIGHT WAY). In other words, thrilling yet safe… passionate yet mature… unpredictable yet trustworthy.
CAPABLE OF SUCCEEDING IN LIFE AND LOVE… while also capable of tolerating and dealing with challenges, loss, and adversity.
Needless to say, a man’s confidence is powerful fuel indeed… It sparks overwhelming emotions in a woman that, once set off, she’ll want to explore further.
That in mind, here’s how ANY man can get more of this “fuel” for himself:
DIG DEEP Most men obsess about things they can’t change about themselves — when they SHOULD be identifying and maximizing the “Mr. Right” qualities already buried inside them.
So take inventory of your “Mr. Right” qualities (sense of humor… the ability to “listen”… compassion… activism) and then, no matter how deeply “buried” or dormant they may seem — take action to uncover, nurture, grow, and project them.
TAKE RISKS No doubt about it… until a man is open and excited to try new things in life, he’ll never escape his comfort zone… including “daring” to connect in a meaningful way with women.
Building confidence means taking chances in life — whether skydiving or simply sampling new foods instead of ordering “the usual.”
So start practice “taking risks” both large and small… and watch how it translates INSTANTLY into new CONFIDENCE.
STOP FEARING REJECTION Most men must discover first-hand that rejection won’t kill them. (Or even break a bone…)
But once a man experiences this for himself enough times and accepts it, women can “feel” it the moment they meet him… that he’s calm, cool, and comfortable in in his own skin.
So start “going for it” whenever you can… because, when it comes to “rejection,” there’s DEFINITELY nothing to fear except fear itself.
Take these small steps toward broadcasting CONFIDENCE to a woman, and it’s almost automatic: she’ll “receive” the message… she’ll remember it… she’ll keep thinking about it… and she’ll want to spend more time around the man who sent it.
And then the sky’s the limit… all because you’re finally sending the signals that EVERY woman is looking for and just can’t ignore:
That you just might be “Mr. Right.”
“There’s ONE Thing Women Want To Know The Moment They Meet You: Are You Mr. Right? Although ANY guy can benefit from this powerful program – it was designed to show you how to meet, attract, and keep a 10.”
MORE INFORMATION & PRICING: The Ultimate Training For Men Who Are Ready To Find (And Keep) A Total 10
Start taking risks with women.
No one is asking you to put your life in harms way or risk jail time because you’re not respecting a girl. That’s absurd. So be real about it man!
Never forget – If you do nothing, rarely (if ever will) a woman take the risk for you. She would rather think about it and wait. If you both do the same thing, not only are you acting like a girl – you will miss your opportunity to be with her… guaranteed!
Rejection is not the end of the world. Being afraid of rejection and NOT acting out of fear is far worse and less productive than doing SOMETHING. Trust me, you take your own life in your hand everyday just leaving your house or apartment which means two things – you do have courage AND you do take risks which are far worse than just talking to a girl, woman, or yes… even a drop-dead gorgeous 10.
Confidence is not just something (we) talk about it. It invokes feelings in women which go well beyond just showing her you’re a cool guy who has some sort of ability. It’s talking to the core of her being a female which can not be faked in any way.
Lastly, since it can not be said any better than what David wrote…
“Take inventory of your “Mr. Right” qualities (sense of humor… the ability to “listen”… compassion… activism) and then, no matter how deeply “buried” or dormant they may seem — take action to uncover, nurture, grow, and project them.” —> Become Mister Right