“Look deeply in her in the eyes then her mouth and then back to her eyes. Place your lips close and closer to hers. Slowly wrap your arms around her lightly or place your hands on her neck or cheek. Wait for what seems an eternity for her to slowly close her eyes and pucker up her lips… because that means she wants to be kissed.”
The first kiss used to scare the shit out of me. It scared me so much I would wait until the woman made the first move which obviously doesn’t work because of these four very important reasons:
1. Too many women won’t ever make the first move even though they might think they have given you all the “go” signs to kiss them.
We’ve all heard about all the signals a woman gives when she’s ready and willing to accept the first kiss from us. Unfortunately most men are terrible at reading those signals from women.
Remember – women are (generally) just as nervous as you are about the first kiss and that nervousness could look like the wrong signals. It’s all too easy to misread someone when they’re anxious.
2. Missing the first kiss leads to way too many friends zones.
Miss the moment once or twice and the best result for you is she’ll give up you and throw you in the friends zone.
Miss the moment once or twice or more and the worse result makes her feel like YOU are either not attracted to her or you’re not interested in her. She’ll feel like you put HER in the friends zone and write you off completely.
“This nice guy tip is for all the guy who end up in the friends zone because they’re either afraid to make that first move, or were worried she would be offended by it.” – 3. The First Move @ DiaLteG TM
3. Don’t go for the first kiss and you’ll never know what could have been.
A missed kiss is a missed opportunity and one where you’ll 99.999% of the time never find out what “could’ve been”. And living a life a could haves or should haves is not fun at all.
Maybe if you’re lucky you’ll find out years later that she was expecting a kiss but by then she’ll probably be with some other dude who didn’t hesitate.
4. The shitty truth: Waiting for women to make the first move will only have you attracting women who might be more masculine than you, so to speak.
“Never learning how to make that first move limits our choices because we only “hook up” with those who are willing to play OUR masculine role.” – Afraid Of Making A Move On Her? Getting To And Past That First Kiss @ DiaLteG TM
In my case, I would not move forward with the women I wanted and I only ended up with the women I wasn’t that attracted to and as a nice guy, not being “into” the woman you’re with can become a living hell AND it’s not fair to women in general.
We’re men, right? I believe when we use our natural ability to attract a woman and lead her to make our first kiss not only is it much more powerful to her, it’s much more rewarding to our masculinity.
“Becoming a sexy, confident, attractive nice guy who leads women with courage is really ONLY a few steps away for lots of guys.” – If Women Don’t Think You’re A Sexy Guy, Then Start Doing This
The first kiss can be an anxiety filled moment but that moment can quickly disappear if we just lean in a little, look her in the eyes, place our lips close to hers, wrap our arms around her lightly or place our hands on her neck or cheeks… and then wait what seems an eternity for her to slowly close her eyes and pucker up… because that means she wants to be kissed.
Yes, it can be scary. I would avoid any and all moments like that when I sucked with women or had little confidence that any woman would want to kiss me anyways.
When I think about it now (I have a remarkable girlfriend so it’s been a while since I’ve had to experience that first kiss) but one way I got over it was to realize how amazing those moments actually were and to actually enjoy the first kiss.
Think about it.
The first kiss only happens once.
Sure you can experience something similar with the right woman for years to come but that first kiss is technically only going to happen once… why be so afraid of something so close to feeling like magic…
For her and for YOU too.
You’ll feel her lips for the first time. She’ll experience yours for the first time too.
The first kiss can feel like a lot of pressure on you but guess what:
A kiss is NOT a relationship. It’s not a prelude to marriage. It’s not even a guarantee of a second or third date. Stop putting so much pressure on you and her and things will go a lot smoother.
It’s an intimate connection which normally happens during a highly physical emotional moment when lots of chemicals are running through your body.
“The Kiss Technique makes it so that when you’re speaking to a woman, you can intentionally give off subconscious triggers that will make her think about kissing you!” – The Kiss Technique – Get A Girl to Kiss You Without Fear of Rejection @ DiaLteG TM
Being a nice guy I can totally understand how you want to respect her. How you don’t want her to see you as a player or just some guy who is only looking for sex. Or how you want her to see you as somebody “different from all the rest but guess what…
You’re a man and men who like women KISS women and they understand that completely.
Players play women and just going for the first kiss has nothing to do with it. Kissing may lead to sex but that doesn’t mean she’s going to believe you only want her body. Well maybe just her lips but that’s okay.
As they say, It’s better to try and fail than not to try at all.
Going for the first also says a lot about you.
Women like (or love) to be kissed by a man who has the courage to go for it, can overcome moments of anxiety maturely, and who are not afraid to take the lead to make something happen.
SO even if you’re rejected or it doesn’t work out…
She will ALWAYS see you as that guy… so BE that guy.
Be a good guy who isn’t afraid to make the first move or go for the first kiss and I guarantee women will start seeing you as an attractive guy.
“She’s around twenty-five years old and was overdue for a lesson in the sensual kiss. Her tongue was being jammed down my throat as if she was drilling for my tonsils and I found it highly unacceptable.” – How I Kiss with Passion @ DiaLteG TM